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Here is the second rule in Richard Templar's bestselling book "Rules of Love".
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RULE 2: Get Over It Before You Get on with It

We all get battered and bruised by life, that’s inevitable. Some of us come off worse than others. Of course, it’s the scars that give us character, so they’re not all bad in the long run. In the short term, we may need to recover before we re-enter the fray.

If your last relationship or two has left you a bit of an emotional wreck, it’s better to repair the damage before you start looking for a new lover and partner. Otherwise you won’t be able to show them the real you, and you won’t be able to focus on them if you’re still preoccupied with yourself.

If you make a mistake with your new relationship (and it hap- pens to us all), you could end up more bruised than when you started. Even if you did manage to find someone truly caring and loving, both of you could suffer because one of you wasn’t ready yet to launch into a relationship.
I have a friend who came out of one relationship an emotional wreck. Then she met a man who was lovely—kind, nurturing, and protective. Just what she thought she needed.
Over the next couple of years he looked after her until she was a strong, inde- pendent woman again. And what happened? It completely killed their relationship. She wasn’t the woman he’d fallen in love with any more. Lots of men go for strong, independent women, but he wasn’t one of them. He liked women who were fragile and needed looking after.

And that’s the danger. Even if you find the perfect partner, they’re only ideal for who you are right now, and that’s not who you‘ll be after you recover—the person you really are under- neath. I’m not saying these relationships can never work, but it’s very, very rare.

So do yourself a favor. Go away and hide somewhere while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family, and wait until you’ve recovered before you start looking for a new part- ner. And when you do, try to pick someone whose scars are relatively well-healed, too—because this works the other way as well. In this way you both see each other as you trully are, and start your relationship the way you want to continue it.


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